Grief Counselling and Management Cairns

Grief Counselling CairnsGrief is our response to loss, particularly the death of a loved one. Grief can affect our thoughts, feelings, behaviours, beliefs and our relationships with others. It is often thought that people progress through grief in similar ways, but this is not the case. Everyone experiences grief differently because our reaction depends on a range of individual factors, such as our personality and age, our relationship with the deceased, cultural practices, the level of social support and our spiritual beliefs.

Understanding grief

There is no ‘right way’ to grieve and misconceptions about the grieving process can make the bereaved person question their feelings and sanity. Understanding what grief can be like, finding ways to safely express strong emotions and coming up with coping strategies can all help a bereaved person to endure the pain of their loss. Grief can encompass a wide range of emotions and, contrary to popular belief, does not follow through a distinctive set of stages (denial, anger, bargaining and acceptance).

Symptoms of grief

For each individual, the experience of grief will be vastly different and will progress differently. For many people, grief will continue to be experienced in subtle ways for the rest of their lives. Some of the many reactions associated with grief include:

  • Anger
  • Anxiety
  • Change in world view
  • Confusion
  • Depression
  • Despair
  • Drop in self-esteem
  • Feeling unable to cope
  • Guilt and remorse
  • Helplessness
  • Relief

Moving on with life

There is an expectation that accepting the death of a loved one means letting go of them. The reality is that the bereaved continues to have a relationship with their loved one for the rest of their lives through remembering them. Death ends a life, not a relationship.

Look after yourself

Losing a loved one is a shattering event that affects people emotionally, physically and spiritually. There are a number of ways individuals can look after themselves as they go through the grieving process including:

  • Watching diets and partaking in exercise are two ways to avoid some of the physical side-effects of grief such as sleeplessness, anxiety and gastrointestinal upsets;
  • Taking time out each day relax in whatever way suits you, such as doing Yoga or Tai Chi, taking a bath, reading or playing a sport;
  • Avoid using drugs such as alcohol or antidepressants as a means of dealing with grief, as these will not ease the pain in any real way and cause other health concerns;
  • Be realistic about the grieving process and how you will naturally go through the process ensuring you don’t criticise yourself for not coping as well as you think you should.

Grief counselling in Cairns and North Queensland

There are many coping strategies which people use to work through their grief including crying, time alone or with family, creating a memorial and taking time out to enjoy an activity. However, sometimes, people require additional support to get them through the grieving process and Crispian Jones from Seachange Psychology offers grief counselling and management services in Cairns and North Queensland.

To find out more about grief and the grieving process, contact Cris at Seachange Psychology on phone 07 4041 4147.

Cairns Psychologist Rebates

Health fund rebates may apply and you don’t need a doctor’s referral to make an appointment. If you do see your doctor and he writes you a Mental Health Care Plan to see a psychologist, you are entitled to 12 sessions in a calendar year and you will receive a rebate from Medicare of approximately $84.80 as at 2015.